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What Do You Do When Hope is Gone?

My last post was about hope. Hope is a great thing, maybe the best of things. Hope is a key to the Christian life. But there’s a kind of hope I can really identify with because I know it so well…


“Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but when the desire comes, it is a tree of life.” Proverbs 13: 12

That’s right… hope deferred!  I have a closet full of braces and gadgets that each of them had initially promised a better quality of life. BUT it never happened. I got my hopes up many of times only to have them come crashing down. And some of you know what I’m talking about. It’s so discouraging to have your hopes dashed time after time!


As I’m writing this from my heart-from my own experiences-I know with certainty, that no matter how deferred it gets, hope always manages not to die but it stays alive! Being let down so many times is actually a good thing. A good thing? Yes, a good thing. I know how insane that sounds. It’s good because it is a constant reminder that only heaven can satisfy. If we put our hope in this world-there is none. I read something outstanding the other day that helps make this point so unmistakably real…



There’s something about being taken to the end of yourself that makes those seven words really come alive!  The point I want to make in writing about having your hope deferred… and really get this... God will always give you the appropriate amount of grace to handle whatever comes your way, and that’s the issue. Yeah, hope comes from healing and deliverance.  But hope also comes from God telling us that even if we don’t receive those things, He is still sufficient.


“He will not crush the weakest reed or put out a flickering candle. He will bring justice to all who have been wronged.” Isaiah 42: 3

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Comment by Steve Belttari on July 19, 2011 at 1:43pm

     I agree that our ultimate hope is a sinless resurrected body after we die or are raptured.  I also agree  that having our heart made sick by deferred hope is a way God instructs us in this.  However, I also believe that God's promises pertain to life and godliness in our lives right now.  1 Pet 5 vs 6 says to "humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time."  When God does something for us that exceeds our banal existence, there is a danger in this.  Hebrews 6 vs 4-6 says:

      "For it is impossible for those who were once enlightened, and have tasted the  heavenly gift, and have become partakers of the Holy Spirit,

      and have tasted the good Word of God and the powers of the age to come,

      if they fall away, to renew them again to repentence, since they crucify again for themselves the Son of God, and put Him to open shame."

With this scripture text in mind, I'm content with "working out my salvation with fear and trembling" until the Lord in his wisdom knows that I can handle the "powers of the age to come."    



Comment by Lori Laws on July 18, 2011 at 5:39pm

"looking afar off to the Promise that will soon come to pass."  AMEN!

Thanks Mark :)

Comment by Mark Edward Kroger on July 18, 2011 at 5:21pm

Hi Lori.

Your post is a great example of Kingdom Insight. Kingdom thoughts transcends natural man thoughts and declares with Father Abraham, "Looking for a City built without hands" looking afar off to the Promise that will soon come to pass.

Thanks Lori for the encouragement to all of us.



Comment by Dr. Bill Smith on July 18, 2011 at 1:58pm
Thanks for sharing - Blessings!
Comment by Lori Laws on July 18, 2011 at 10:33am
There's no limit Val, I'm reading...
Comment by Val on July 18, 2011 at 10:26am
oh my gosh....only half of my post came out... :(   I will have to try to put the rest on later when I have th etime again...are we limited to length on here?? 
Comment by Val on July 18, 2011 at 10:22am

God truly works his magic when you really need it.  I have and am still going through the most difficult time of my life so far.  My life has been a rollercoaster of despair, heartache, hope, back to heartache and sadness since February.  I got a call from my Mom Saturday morning, Feb. 19.  She had fallen and couldn't get up so I ran up to her apartment and she was on her hands and knees on her floor.  I got her up to her chair and she was very weak and sweaty.  I tried to help her to the bathroom and down she went again.  I called 911 and the ambulance arrived and took her to the ER.  As my sister and I sat there waiting for results, the doctor came in and asked if she had a history of heart problems.  I said, no.  She had been diagnosed as severely anemic 4 days before and we were addressing that. He said, well she is having a massive heart attack and has to  be airlifted to CMC STAT!  Her reaction was ...NO..I CAN'T!  She had a difficult time in a car...the thought of being in a helicopter petrified her.  So I spoke a few words to God, put our faith in the team of experts and they didn't let us down.  They made her comfortable so that she didn't even know what was going on.  By the time we got to the hospital, which was an hour and a half drive, she was already in ICU with the stint in her heart and arguing with the nurse over the tv channels.  :)  The ICU nurse told us she would probably be home by Monday.  Ten days later, she left Catholic Medical Center to go to a rehab/nursing home to make her stronger.  The goal there was to make sure she was strong enough to go back home.  She was doing more than she had in many years, so once again, our hopes were flying and we knew she was coming home.  The PT therapist said that she was pretty much at her capacity, and they wanted to do another evaluation and set up a home inspection to make sure everything was good for her at home.  I kind of hesitated in accepting this because her breathing had become more labored in the last couple weeks.  So I went down the hall and talked to the doctor, who informed me that things truly were not good....and I pinned her down for a time frame...she said...weeks..??  That sent me reeling...where was that hope we had clung to for these last weeks?  I just let go...and put it in God's hands.  He gave me the good sense to just take it as it came with my Mom, and he gave me the strength to be strong in front of her and my sister.  A few days later, my sister and I walked in on our usual visit...and the nurse took us into a room to tell us that she had told her she was going to die.  She told her probably within a month...but she told us it would be sooner.  Once again...a sledge hammer to my gut...  Composing ourselves, we went in our usual cheery selves.  Mom asked if we talked to the dr...we said lightly...yeah..we did.  She said..well what did she tell you?  We said she just wanted to talk about your blood pressure and stuff.  "Oh..ok" was her response.  And that was the end of it.  This was huge...because my mother...all my life, was full of fear and suffered many phobias and depression...when I was 13 we lost our brother Andy to a shooting accident and she never recovered from that. In 2000 we lost our younger brother, Jeff.  So she suffered greatly for most of her life.  But in her last days, she was so strong and stoic...she was a woman I had never seen before. Here, hopes were high...we knew what was coming, but our biggest fear was that she would be afraid, and that was not anything that I wanted to have to see.  She stayed strong until her only grandson came to see her from SC...he was her prince...the only one in the world that could really make her heart smile.  He spent every day with her. Then she started sleeping more and more.  She drifted off to a peaceful sleep her last my sister and I sat at her bedside at 3 in the morning, I witnessed how her face had taken on a youthful look.  She had no wrinkles and the b

Comment by Lori Laws on July 18, 2011 at 10:07am
Thanks for Sharing that, Sharon!  Yes, I hold a support group for those with chronic illness, and know firsthand how helping others takes the focus off yourself and brings unspeakable joy!  God bless :)
Comment by SueW on July 18, 2011 at 6:52am

Lori, we cannot put our hope in this world but only in God.  A relationship with Jesus, regardless of what we are experiencing in life, will make us happy - not a la la la type of happiness but an inner joy which feels really good.  Another thing I recently discovered as I got into intense care ministry - reaching out in a caring relationship can distract from personal depression.  On July 4, I was sort of depressed because our son had "other plans" and "better things to do" than be with us. So I had planned my first caring visit with my Stephen Ministry care receiver on that day.  The Holy Spirit was really with us (and I brought her Communion also) and I sustained an inner joy from that visit which not only lasted hours but totally distracted me from being depressed about not seeing our son on that day!  When Jesus separates the "sheep" (as Heaven bound) and the "Goats" as not, He does it on the basis of "when I was sick, you visited Me, when I was hungry you gave Me to eat..." (and so forth) ending with "What you did unto the Least, you did unto Me!"  But what He doesn't tell us is this type of ministry will also make US feel joyful inside (sort of an "undocumented feature" so to speak). :) I guess He wants us to trust in Him first and reach out and then, of course, God will not be outdone in His Generosity... rather than us doing it because of a promise of a reward.  However, those rewards are there.  Praise Him forever!!!

Comment by Juanita on July 17, 2011 at 8:54pm



I love your thoughts.  So encourging!

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