Have you had a devastating event happen in your family? Did you question God? Did you doubt He was aware or cared about what happened?
I'm glad to say that God prepared me for one of those devastations, but it came as a response to me saying something very risky to God: "I don't care what it takes. Just make me into the person You want me to be." Many are fearful, believing God will cause someone's death to take place if they give Him Carte Blanche. But, I can reassure you that God, your loving heavenly Father, intends only good for you. Remember, "He works all things for good..." If tragedy strikes, it would have happened anyway, not just because we gave God permission to control our future.
Yes, in my situation, a death did occur. But that happened 18 years later. It's what God did in the interim that caused me to trust Him in new and exciting ways. He taught me unconditional love. He helped me see myself with new eyes. He took away my pride and judgmentalism, then stripped me of self-pity and unforgiveness. He filled me with joy during a time when I didn't have enough money to pay the rent and suffered daily with back pain.
Did God make me into the person He wanted me to be? You betcha!! But ... He's not through. I still learn that His mercies are new every morning, that I'll keep learning to be like Jesus every day of my life.
Rather than take paragraphs more to tell you my whole story, I'd be interested in hearing your story - what event hurt your family terribly and how you dealt with it.