Is this statement the wise guide that it appears to be? What if someone comes to you for advice and you only tell them the positive things about the situation? In my view this leaves the one seeking advice with a lopsided overly rosey view of a situation. It could cause them forge ahead with a bad descision. In my view it is just as dangerous as the person who can only find all the reasons why something would fail. There is an authority in my life who will only say the positive. They seem unable to present a balanced view, unable or unwillng to phrase needed cautions in a positve light, and therefore offer no cautions at all. In a recent situation thier words were almost opposite those of others in my life, most of whom are simply friends. In the end my friends were right.

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  • Will admit that a couple of the ladies who have spoken most freely to me do so because I mentioned that I would rather be warned ahead of time than find out after the fact. There are a couple of other ladies who have been around the block too many times and speak out despite thier fears. There are many folks, esp. ladies, who find me a might too direct because sometimes I just say it. Learned the concept of tact a bit late. There are a few guys around who claim to "love my honesty". Since I am so direct I value the same trait in others. It's so much easier than trying to read between the lines.
  • I agree with Deborah wholeheartedly. Sometimes I think women have more trouble speaking truth when it's needed rather than positive things. That could be wrong view since I tend to be around women a lot more than men. I have found that I am usually the truth-speaker in the circles I am in.

    I have had many ladies tell me they wished they had the courage to do the same, but I really don't see it that way. I think it's mostly because not many people in my life cared to speak frankly and lovingly to me about my situations throughout my life and I don't want to see anyone have to go through circumstances and experiences I went through to "learn" the truth. I guess I would rather risk loosing a good friend than allowing a good friend to falter because I did not love them enough to share truth with them in a loving manner.

    I had 3 wonderful ladies in my life speak truth to me and because their love, Christ lives in me. How could I deny to anyone that which I received freely?
  • Deborah, you think like I do.
  • Speak truth with love, mercy, compassion and boldness. If speaking only positive things causes someone to continue in error -then can we truly say we spoke something positive into their life? and if speaking something negative reveals the reality of the matter then have we truly spoke something negative into someone's life? What someone does with the truth is their responsibility. Our responsibility is to be truthful and how we present the truth.
  • Lisa,
    This is a great question!

    What would come to mind is this... since we are supposed to be like Jesus, did Jesus use this standard in how he did things?
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